My facebook feed has been blowing up with ads and friends mentioning Stitch Fix. As it happens, having lost some weight recently, I was in desperate need of some new clothing, so I decided to give it a go. Step 1 was filling out a style profile, which really means getting to click on pics of what you like! I love doing that! You also fill out information about your body shape (pear – that’s way less fun for me to do). They ask you if there are any items you don’t want and what you do want. One thing I didn’t mention was that I have been obsessively wanting a pair of really nice white linen pants. Summer, hope , and joy are all wrapped up in a pair of great white linen pants (which must mean I live in fantasy -land, because with an active 7 year old who likes to climb on me, how can I possibly keep them clean?) However, I just answered the questions about style and waited to see what I would receive. I figured, let the stylists handle it all.
The day the Stitch Fix box arrived (super cute box, btw) I was so giddy! My kids were laughing at how excited I was! So, I pulled out one shirt that I instantly loved, followed by another shirt I was more iffy on and then….a pair of gorgeous, white linen pants. They looked like the pants of my dreams. I couldn’t wait to try them on. I ran upstairs, whipped my clothes off and slipped them on. They felt like a dream. I sat down in them, still, felt amazing. Then, I looked in the mirror. Hmm. “Maybe I need better light,” I thought. I opened the shades. Still, hmm. I didn’t like how they looked, especially from the back. I admired the fall of the fabric and that you couldn’t see through them. I tried a different shirt. But still, something was off. I looked in the mirror again and though, well, if I lost 5 pounds, these would be perfect! These would be my dream pants.
Let’s reflect on that for a moment. These are pants I haven’t even paid for yet, and my first thought it, how can I modify my body to fit these pants. No! Just No NO NO! And yet, I had to sleep on it to realize how silly that was.
I used to do that with my relationship. Wonder how I can mold myself into something that worked for him instead of looking for something that already fit me. I can see it now. All this time that I’ve been spending by myself, allowing myself to hurt and feel. It has taught me that I can’t lose 5 pounds to make the pair of pants I like, fit. The reality is, those aren’t the perfect pants. They don’t fit now. They don’t fit the person that I am. If I am the person that I want to be, then find what fits now. If I’m not, then lose 5 pounds and then buy pants that actually fit me then. I sent the pants back. It turns out, I tried on a really old pair of jeans and they fit me perfectly. Like a dream. And looked amazing with my Stitch Fix shirt. So I love Stitch Fix, not just for the great shirt, sweater, and necklace, but more importantly, the lesson it reminded me of.